Have you been bitten?

I’ve had several people contact me about my Fight the Frump posts. Most of the response has been positive. But there are a few who have expressed concern over the fact that, while funny, the focus of these makes them feel bad or worse about themselves. They feel/worry that the focus of these posts is all about self-focus.

All of this got me thinking…
Somehow, we seem to equate trying to take care of ourselves with selfish thinking. And then this got me thinking about something that Beth Moore says in the Daniel bible study : from p. 26 –

They (Daniel , Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego) learned the language, literature, and customs all right, but only so God could use them in the midst of it. They read the language of their culture with the lens of God. Thereby, they became culturally relevant without becoming spiritually irrelevant. Against all odds, they retained a God-centered worldview so that ultimately the world could view their God. Amazing.

It is true that if we obsess over what we wear and how we fit in, then we are focusing on the wrong thing. But there is nothing wrong with a healthy perspective on fashion and style.

Now, with that said, I’m gonna Fight the Frump Frugal-Style!

Having style does not have to cost a bunch of money.

Amount of money spent does not equal good taste.
TONS of Money wasted spent + tacky taste = expensive tacky taste. Want proof?

Spring fashions are starting to come into stores! How can we fight the frump and not break the bank?

Here are some ideas:

Have you heard of Bitten by Sarah Jessica Parker? If not, you are missing out on some great buys on quality clothing. (The spring collection has not been released yet, so these examples are from the winter line, but they are super cute nonetheless.)

Check out this Not So fuzzy math: You may not be able to read the tiny writing under the photo, but those numbers I added on are correct! $27.00 for the ENTIRE outfit!

This top: $8.98

Jeans: $8.98

Next week, I’ll still be Fightin’ the Frump frugal style. You won’t want to miss it.

A question for you. Yes, you.

Yesterday, I spent a lovely day with my brilliant friend and her cute kids (and the post she wrote today is proof-positive of that). We hung out, and then I threw my kids at her and left for a meeting at the Tennessean. Then I raced back, hung out some more, and a bit more and then realized that I was probably beginning to grow moss and had better gather myself and my youngins and head out because I also had a meeting with the Minister of Adults at church.

Do I have a point, you ask?

Oh right, yes. I did say I have a question for you.

Brevity is so overrated…

My meeting with the Minister of Adults was about the women’s ministry at church. I am going to lead a women’s bible study during the day. Our church already offers women’s bible studies, but they are in the evenings. And seriously, evenings are so sacred around here, that I can’t imagine adding one more thing. Or my head justmightexplode. And I know that there are plenty of other moms that feel this way about needing a time with other moms while being able to soak up God’s Word. And not to mention the fact that cleaning up my exploded head would be one more mess on my already full to-do list. And who has time for that, anyway…

(Is there a limit to the number of times one can start a sentence with and? ‘Cause I think I just reached it…)

My question? (really it’s many questions):

* What does your church’s Women’s Ministry do that you feel is working in a positive way? Or what do you wish it would do to reach women and/or moms?

* What are the things that it does and/or offers to meet the needs of women (and specifically, moms)?

* What bible studies have you done that you would consider great women’s and/or mom studies? (I’m looking for something other than Beth Moore. I love her studies, but I’m looking for a variety of studies, and I know that hers are the obvious choice.)

Please post your answers or thoughts in comments (or email me; though, I’d love for your answers to be available to others who might be reading this and need the information.)

I’d really love to hear you thoughts and ideas.
*edited to add: the study will be held at the church, and childcare will be provided

(ps – if you are looking to expand your Valentine’s Day vocabulary, be sure to see post below)

Character: Week 3 – Vision

Okay – so I am changing the way I am doing this study, for 2 reasons…

1) typing the study out probably violates some law and could get me in trouble, that I don’t mean to get into.
2) even if it were okay to do, I’m typing out the lessons and no one is responding. So, my time will be better spent typing the scripture the lesson is based on and then actually writing my thoughts on the topic.

Lesson 3 is based on Matthew 19:16-30

In this lesson, the author describes vision as the following: “First, vision is the God-given ability to see possible solutions to the everyday problems of life. Second, vision is the ability to see beneath the surface of people’s lives. And third, vision is the ability to catch a glimpse of what God wants to do through your life if your dedicate yourself to Him.”

Vision is something I have struggled with. I’ve always struggled with “Is this God speaking to me? or is it my flesh?” I don’t feel that I have a good sense of the difference when faced with a tight spot. Trust me, I can spot it a mile away when it is something obvious. But place that fine line in there and I can analyze it and rationalize it both ways and still not come to a conclusion. It ends up being a leap of faith.

I don’t always see solutions. I’m not a problem solver. I tend to get lazy and give up; throw up the white flag.

I suppose the only vision I do feel that I have is the ability to see below the surface of people’s lives. I can sense when someone is just offering a pat answer or trying to put on a brave face. What I do need to improve on is following through with those feelings. Reaching out to that person. Even as an adult I tend to fall back upon that awkwardness I had as a teenager – “what if I look stupid?” “What if I don’t know what to say?”…

I am reading Get Out of that Pit by Beth Moore. In its own way it is addressing this topic of vision. To see the grime we have surrounded ourselves with. To stop spinning our wheels in the mud and muck and reach out to God for His hand to pull us out of the tough spots. We might have been pushed in the pit, slipped in the pit or jumped in, but we can redecorate it and stay comfortable there and think that it is the only place for us to reside.

But God doesn’t want it that way. He wants to pull us out of it. And He gives us a vision for getting out and what lies beyond… if we just ask.

My prayer after this lesson is that God will infuse me with vision. I pray that I can see beyond the tip of my nose and glimpse the solutions that God has for me.