My husband and I got married three months after we met.
We were crazy and we were in love. But we both also had spent a lot of time in prayer before we met and were at an age where we had experienced so many failed dating situations and even previous engagements that we knew the difference when we met the one God had chosen for each of us.
Yet, even though we knew that the we were each handpicked for the other, do not believe for one single moment that we have spent our married life skipping happily through a bed of flowers. At times, we’ve mucked through some pretty deep and nasty stuff. We’ve both had lots of emotional scar tissue that needed to be removed before the true beauty of our life together could be revealed.
But we’ve been determined and committed to each other through it all. We’ve weathered financial destruction, job changes, many many many moves, miscarriage, parenting…
Given the generation that we grew up in, it amazes me that we’ve stood firm in our commitment. If you were born between 1961 and 1981, you are a part of the generation that saw the divorce rate at its highest point ever. We’ve been called slackers, we lived through grunge… and now we have spouses of our own.
Tricia Goyer has written a wonderful book about marriage for our generation – Generation X, as we’ve been labeled, entitled Generation NeXt Marriage. (read an excerpt here) It is an honest and open look at marriage today and how we can make it work, in spite of the failed marriages we so frequently witnessed (or experienced) growing up.
Tricia is forthcoming about her own experiences and issues in her own marriage. This alone, makes the book a great tool. Since Tricia is a Christian, she is able to show us how any marriage can be redeemed and made whole, if we will allow the Lord to work through it and guide us.
Using song titles from the 80s (Cinderella, The Cure, U2 etc) she discusses topics such as
History Never Repeats ~ Revisiting your relationship role models
I Remember You ~ Overcoming the bond of past relationships
In Your Eyes ~ Intimacy
Dirty Laundry ~ Everyday stuff of life
Love is a Battlefield ~ Conflict resolution for couples
This is a well researched, relevant book. I’d buy a copy for all of you, if I could! BUT, I can give you a chance to win a copy of it, along with the companion Generation NeXt book Generation NeXt Parenting. Just leave a comment for me (be sure I have a way to contact you) and I will announce a winner this Friday, April 11th.
(I really wanted to add photos from my wedding to this post, but I can’t find my port for uploading photos and I don’t have a scanner. Check back Friday, when I announce the winner and have hopefully found my port.)