Keeping it Together

(but read my review anyway ;0)

My husband and I got married three months after we met.

THREE months.

We were crazy and we were in love. But we both also had spent a lot of time in prayer before we met and were at an age where we had experienced so many failed dating situations and even previous engagements that we knew the difference when we met the one God had chosen for each of us.

Yet, even though we knew that the we were each handpicked for the other, do not believe for one single moment that we have spent our married life skipping happily through a bed of flowers. At times, we’ve mucked through some pretty deep and nasty stuff. We’ve both had lots of emotional scar tissue that needed to be removed before the true beauty of our life together could be revealed.

But we’ve been determined and committed to each other through it all. We’ve weathered financial destruction, job changes, many many many moves, miscarriage, parenting…

Given the generation that we grew up in, it amazes me that we’ve stood firm in our commitment. If you were born between 1961 and 1981, you are a part of the generation that saw the divorce rate at its highest point ever. We’ve been called slackers, we lived through grunge… and now we have spouses of our own.

Tricia Goyer has written a wonderful book about marriage for our generation – Generation X, as we’ve been labeled, entitled Generation NeXt Marriage. (read an excerpt here) It is an honest and open look at marriage today and how we can make it work, in spite of the failed marriages we so frequently witnessed (or experienced) growing up.

Tricia is forthcoming about her own experiences and issues in her own marriage. This alone, makes the book a great tool. Since Tricia is a Christian, she is able to show us how any marriage can be redeemed and made whole, if we will allow the Lord to work through it and guide us.

Using song titles from the 80s (Cinderella, The Cure, U2 etc) she discusses topics such as

History Never Repeats ~ Revisiting your relationship role models
I Remember You ~ Overcoming the bond of past relationships
In Your Eyes ~ Intimacy
Dirty Laundry ~ Everyday stuff of life
Love is a Battlefield ~ Conflict resolution for couples

This is a well researched, relevant book. I’d buy a copy for all of you, if I could! BUT, I can give you a chance to win a copy of it, along with the companion Generation NeXt book Generation NeXt Parenting. Just leave a comment for me (be sure I have a way to contact you) and I will announce a winner this Friday, April 11th.

(I really wanted to add photos from my wedding to this post, but I can’t find my port for uploading photos and I don’t have a scanner. Check back Friday, when I announce the winner and have hopefully found my port.)


  1. http://Jolanthe says

    This sounds like a great book, Karla. :)


  2. http://glorybeam says

    That could be great material for a marriage seminar! We do pre-marital counseling and marriage enrichment sessions. I need to get that book!

    twitter: @glorybeam
    email: glorybeam@gmail


  3. http://Huse%20Blog%20is%20it%20Anyway? says

    please please pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeease pick me. My hubby and I got married after 2 months and as you were describing your story, it sounded like you were talking about me. Seriously, I was like, “KARLA, girl…why you sharin’ my story with the world!?”

    I would love to have these books. BUT, if I don’t win (like every other contest you run) I’ll get over it and buy the books myself.

    I’m waiting until April 11th, though.

  4. http://Heather says

    Hubby and I have been looking for a book to read together, per a suggestion on the EW forum. This would be great! Please pick me!!

  5. http://stephanie says

    Those sound great! Please enter me. :)


  6. http://Sister%20Honey%20Bunch says

    Enter me. We’re celebrating 6 years on Sunday.

  7. http://Gloria says

    I’d love to read this book, please add me to the giveaway :)

  8. http://Angie says

    Karla…I think I can top that! I won’t be “bloggin” it…because I wouldn’t want ANYONE to try this at home! But, Jeff and I met on May 9—first date May 11….and married June 30….of the same year. AND–have been happily—notwithstanding trials and tribulations along the way…for almost 26 years. God is good. That is all I can say about it! HE is GOOD! We persevere. Through total financial destruction—and prodigal oldest child—and other stuff that is best left where it is—GOD heals—delivers and restores. AND I am grateful!
    So with that being said…I ENJOYED your post! WILL be looking for you at the SHESPEAKS! and Please enter me!!!!!
    Blessings to YOU!

  9. http://Barb says

    This sounds like a really interesting book, Karla. I’d love a chance to win it.

    I totally understand marrying on three months after you met – if you know, you just know. Why wait!

  10. http://Beck says

    Hey, I could USE that book!
    Three months! And I thought we didn’t spend a long time before we got married…

  11. http://Anonymous says

    Enter me. 19 years of marriage this June!! Unlike you we dated for 6 1/2 yrs. We were only 20 when we married! I LOVE books.


  12. http://Mikki%20Roo says

    Sounds like a good one! We got married 9 months after we met, but we lived 6 hours apart and only saw each other about 3 times before we got engaged!!

  13. http://Alyssa says

    We met May 26, and were married November 6. Born in 1978! I need this book!

  14. http://Lalena says

    I’m Gen X and was married at 18. It’s been a rough road but will me and sweetie will be 20 years together this July. Now that the kids are older I am able to focus more on the marriage and I love it. Sounds like a great book!

    Your posts are always so insightful ~thank you :)

  15. http://Megan%20(FriedOkra) says

    Me! I want one!

  16. http://Reynie says

    i’ll be celebrating my one year wedding anniversary on may 19th! enter me please!

    reynieford at hotmail dot com

  17. http://Jenn says

    Sounds they they are both great books.

    You will have show us a wedding picture at a later date!:o)

  18. http://Not%20the%20Queen says

    I’d love to read this book! My husband and I will celebrate our 8th anniversary this summer.

  19. http://Fuschia says

    I really enjoy your blog, as a new blogger, I’m getting lots of help just from reading…so, thanks!

    I’d love to win the book, any book is a friend of mine ;)

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