This morning, I started a post to answer some more of the questions
I begged and begged for and have only just begun to answer asked of me. It is turning in to a much longer post than I imagined… this particular question struck a chord with me and for some reason I can not manage even an inkling of pithiness in my answer. I knew I wasn’t going to get it done in time to post before everyone went to bed, but I still plugged away.
I went to pick up my daughter from school and by the time we were home, I knew what I needed to write.
This past Saturday, Abigael went to a birthday party. When we arrived, I noticed the lack of cars and children being dropped off. As I walked her up to the door, it became apparent that she was the only other child there. It was a sad sort of affair, this child and her parents wanting to celebrate their child’s birth. It’s not that there is anything wrong with a small get-together. That is how all of our children’s birthdays have been. But in this case, that was not the plan. Invitations were handed out to all of the children in the class. Yet only one child was there for it.
I was so saddened by this. I don’t know why if affected me the way that it did. My heart tends to gravitate towards the loners, the last-choice-for-the-game sort of children. Even though I ran with the popular crowd in school, I hated the thought of anyone being left out.
Apparently, my daughter’s heart does too.
When she got in the car, she handed me a thank you card from the girl and her mother. It was apparent how much it meant to them that Abigael took the time to go. It practically screamed loneliness. I asked her about this little girl, and if she has any friends, and Abbie said just her and K (a little boy in the class).
Abbie has a lot of friends. I don’t think she realizes (maybe it just doesn’t matter?) that she is, in actuality, a popular child. I’ve observed her and I see how everyone brightens when she is around. They are drawn to her; they clamor for her attention. Yet, she has no need for their approval. It simply does not affect her. She merely wants to enjoy herself and the others around her.
If only we could all be that way.