We all know that all kids are different… even if you don’t have kids, you were one and know — you weren’t the same as all of the other kids. Some are loud, some are artistic, some are klutzy… etc.
My kids, like everyone else’s, exemplify this.
And I am now struggling because of it…
Abigael, my firstborn, just turned 6. She is smart as a whip and very artistic. She “gets” things. She started kindergarten and tested at almost 2nd grade level. She taught herself how to read (and loves to read). She never drew “spider” looking people (you know, the people every kid draws that are a circle with squiggly legs coming out all around). When she was 25 months old she was drawing people with detail… fancy hair, clothes, hands, shoes. And they looked like them! The things she grasps never ceases to amaze me. She has also always been content. Laid back, and even a little absent-minded. She wants to be an artist-ballerina-baker when she grows up.
Quinn, my firstborn son and middle child, is 3 (4, the end of January). He has always been my sensitive child. The one who wants to snuggle. Who gets his feelings hurt easily. The one that wants to please. He was super laid-back until he turned 3. Since then though, *whew*…He is right on cue, large and small motor skills-wise. Loves to help me. Adores his daddy. Wants to be a cowboy when he grows up.
Seamus, my baby, just turned 1. He is into everything, already trying to climb up on stuff, loves throwing his food on the floor (neither of my other two did any of those things). He’s my handful. Happy as can be. But when he is mad (which is very rare), watch out — temper.
Are you wondering what my point is yet?
I’m really struggling with my middle child… My husband and I sat up late last night talking about him and what to do… (we ended up bringing him into our bed, just so we could snuggle him, after a rough day of it…)
And we are at a loss.
It feels like we ride him all…of…the…time!
It seems like I have to repeat EVERYTHING 500 and 50 million times.
It’s like we are first time parents again. Abigael was a breeze… Bug is not. My concern is that he will get lost between the other two, and that his spirit will suffer.
We need to some help!
So, I am asking you, my sweet blogging friends, for any advice, or resources that have worked for you. It’s hard to be specific, because frankly, my brain is fried. (If you need more info in order to answer, please ask in comments and I will comment on it or update this post.)
I have read: Bringing Up Boys (Dobson) and Grace-Based Parenting (Kimmel), Creative Correction (Lisa Welchel — though my copy is in Pennsylvania, so I can’t refer to it…)
Seriously, EVERYONE who reads this, come out of hiding and give me your best nuggets of parental wisdom!
Thank you, in advance. (cause at the rate I’m going now, I may not make it another day!!! ;-)