Archives for February 2012

One-List Life: Simplifying

Attention Publix Shoppers! From February 23–29 you can participate in P&G’s “One List Life” promotion, available exclusively at Publix: simply select any four fabulous participating P&G items and pick up a FREE Rotisserie Chicken while you’re at it! Learn more at

After months of a steady flow of work, our business has really exploded recently. It is a great ‘problem’ to have, but it does mean simplifying other areas of our life. We try to avoid as much unnecessary stress as possible, especially when it comes to food and meals.

So, this deal could not have happened at a better time.

Yesterday was packed with several meetings, conference calls, designs to firm up with clients, and kids to shuttle around.

A day in overdrive.

Driving home from one of my meetings (with a sinus headache coming on hard) I was smacked with the realization that I still needed groceries.

Since I work from home, I prefer to shop during the week when I can, to avoid the weekend mad-dash to the store along with the rest of humanity. I considered putting it off, but when I remembered it was Thursday, and the weekend was knocking on the door, I headed my car on over to the nearest Publix.

(Side note: Can I just mention, that our Publix has the nicest cashiers and baggers? Honestly. I always leave that place feeling good about humanity)

Knowing my day was not over, I headed straight for the deli and grabbed a BBQ Rotisserie chicken for dinner (score one for simplicity!).

I had several other things to grab and stock up on: fruits and veggies, cheese, steel-cut oatmeal, dishwasher gel packs and fabric softener and a few “just because” items (their sushi is so good!).

I didn’t even have to hand them a coupon for the free chicken. It was deducted automatically at the register.

In and out. Easy peasy.

With four kids and a business, life is crazy enough. But throw in a bad sinus headache and the “One-List Life” promotion saved the day. By just purchasing (any four participating P&G) items already on my list, dinner was ready when I got home.

(*Here’s one other nugget of awesome: if you saved your January 29 P&G brandSAVER, there are coupons for Tide, Charmin, Pampers, Bounty, Iams, Pantene and Cascade that you can use on top of the promotional savings.)

Thank you to P&G for sponsoring my participation in this “One List Life” promotion. I was selected for this sponsorship by the Clever Girls Collective. All opinions expressed here are my own.

a pasta necklace for me.

a pasta necklace for me.

What Defines a Woman… [scratch that] a Person?


I’m sitting at the table tonight while my four children are getting ready for bed.

The eleven year old asks a question about something she’d like to purchase with money she has recently acquired.

Somehow, said eleven year old ends up weeping on her bed… overwhelmed by the choices she faces in the years ahead of her.

When she walks back into the kitchen, hair disheveled, nose red, eyes swollen, it is hard for me to breathe.

She is me. Crying as a child, the only daughter, realizing that one day, I would be the only one in my family with a different last name.

Why are you crying?”, my parents asked.

When I get married, I will no longer be a ‘VanBibber’. I will be different from the rest of you“, I replied.

Tonight’s conversation was that. And yet it also veered so far from those sentiments.

Why are you crying?”, we asked.

The girls in my class already know what they want to do when they grow up“, she replied.

But so do you. You want to own your own animation company and create cartoons. Have a cat of your own. See the world.”

(blank stare)


Their plan is to get married, have children and own a big giant house.

Suddenly, my self-confident child, so sure of her purpose and dreams, is doubtful.

Her dreams don’t look like everyone else’s.

And that makes her a target.

We want everyone to look like us. Dream like us. Think like us.

It makes us feel better about our own choices, doesn’t it?

But that doesn’t make those choices better, or more right for us.

And that doesn’t make them any more likely to come true. If being my own independent-free-spirited self and having four children has taught me anything it’s this: We aren’t all cut from the same cloth.

We all have different purposes, hopes and dreams.

Mama and Riggy, can I call you anytime I need advice, when I grow up?

Of course, Sweetness. We are always here for you.

Just be you, my sweet girl.

Just be you.

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