There was an interesting article in the Washington Post recently regarding the way that kids are choosing and being allowed to dress. You can read it here. But first, stop by the Family Research Council — scroll down to “Sleazy-Chic Culture Goes to School”. Notice that second listing under “Additional Resources”, the Moms for Modesty: Let Your Voice Be Heard link? If you haven’t already signed it, head over to her site (here)
I was so saddened and struck by some of the comments in the Washington Post article. For example:
“Her mother, Yakini Ajanaku, does not mind her daughter’s T-shirts because she said Ashli wears them to be ironic. “I know she’s a sweet girl, and I know that she’s very conservative and is not sexually active,” Ajanaku said. “Other people would probably get the wrong message, but I am pretty much like, ‘Who cares what they think?’ “
Huh?? (I guess my Daniel study is becoming ingrained (thankfully) in my mind. I notice our “Babylon” everywhere and this is but one example.)
For a mother to make that comment about her child is like throwing her in the Lions Den unprepared… Why would a mother be okay with someone getting the wrong message — in this case a sexual one — about her child? We SHOULD care about the messages we send others.
We live in a fallen world. People will be amused by “ironic” statements like these kids are wearing around. They will think they are clever and cool to come across as so liberated and free-spirited. We’ll assume for a moment that this mother isn’t a believer. BUT, unfortunately, in the world we live in, with our lives as Christians being muddied by this worlds dirt, it is harder to determine.
As Christians we should be different. We are set apart. We NEED to care what others think. NOT about how big our home is, or our car. But whether or not we are reflecting the Lord.
Do these clothes glorify the Lord?
Would He be pleased to see us in them?
Even if we DON’T care what others think, we should care what God thinks.
We are holy vessels in the House of the Lord (2 Timothy 2:20-21) Do we treat ourselves or allow our children to NOT treat themselves as if we/they are sacred?
Another thought I had while reading this stemmed from this quote and statistic:
“The T-shirts highlight a paradox about this generation: Even as more teenagers absorb ubiquitous sexual messages, federal data show that they report having less sex than their predecessors.
Although a recent National Center for Health Statistics survey found that more than half of all teenagers engage in oral sex, teen pregnancy rates have plummeted since the early 1990s. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, the percentage of high school students who reported having sexual intercourse dropped from 54 percent in 1991 to 47 percent in 2005.”
I’m only half surprised… Yes, they are having “less sex” — but sex has been de-valued. It is jaded. They see it everywhere… It’s not anything special. (also, I believe that their definition of sex has changed.) I think that more and more we are losing our ability to be intimate with others in ANY capacity (not just sexual).
We are a disconnected society. Instead of hanging out with the people we are with, we hang out in groups chatting to otherpeople on our cell phones. We text message and IM people that we don’t know – who we are anonymous with, which allows us to come across in ways that we wouldn’t dare in real life.
All of this seems discouraging. But have courage. We were placed in this Babylon for a reason. We need to encourage other believers to keep their eyes on heaven. And to keep our noses clean.
Paraphrasing Beth Moore (from session six of Daniel): If we keep our noses clean in this Babylon, we have the capacity for a HUGE influence on others. We can even influence the influential. We don’t know who we are sitting by, riding with in a carpool, raising in our homes.
We are to bear much fruit.
So, consider what you are wearing or allowing your child to wear. It may seem like a small thing. But, it matters.